Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Where has being nice got us?

The Bible don't tell us to be "nice" or "love everybody". I believe that the church adopted their "nice" eastern philosophy from Hinduism thanks to the music group the Beatles. I can't stand them thankfully half of them have died but the damage is already been done. The church has discarded their bibles and settled for what sounds good instead of what's right. Their pastors led them down this road like the pied pipers that they are. Leading their sheep to slaughter. 

I've been reading and thinking about Gideon's army of 300 in Judges 7, to fight the Amakalites (giants nephilium). Gideon started out with 32,000 and God told him he had too many soldiers. You'd think too many warriors is a good thing but Gods not looking for numbers but quality people sold out to him. Jesus said in Matthew 22:14, many are called but few are chosen.  Think about that one for awhile. 
Matthew 7:13
Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.

It's a harder path to stand up for truth even if it's just your own truth. It's much easier to go along with the crowd compromise. Compromise another word not found in the Bible. 

God don't need "nice" he needs warriors. There's enough useless nice so called Christians who can't fight their way out of a paper box. 
We need to take up the sword of authority that Jesus or Yeshua has given to or anointed us with, put on our armour of God and fight. We have been beat down and betrayed by those we trusted and loved. We see where love, forgiveness and nice got us.

Saturday, March 4, 2017

Pedophilia where's the church?

 I'm sure by now you've all heard of Pizzagate. Most of us are sickened by it all and probably so tired of hearing about pizzagate. I'm not going to get into it here. All I want to know is where's the church in all this where's the outcry??  Please tell me one pastor who is upset and angered by this?  All I hear is crickets.  Could it be that the pastors know of these sick degenerate individuals in their congregation and are keeping quiet about their activities?  Possibly even helping to cover their sins?  Are the pastors even involved in this sick perversion?  I can't say but it seems so very strange how silent the church has remained. Possibly the reality of pedophilia is so ugly they want to just put their head in the sand and pretend it don't exist. Well Virginia the truth is pedophilia does exist and it's a world wide problem. What do we do about it? I wish I knew; but what I do know is pretending it don't exist is only enabling the abusers to abuse. We have to keep talking about it keep the subject alive, expose this evil. Possibly the church just don't want unpleasant things to ruin their potlucks, fundraisers, rummage sales and etc.  It seems that churches seem to close their eyes to unpleasantness until it happens to them.  I witnessed how a local church reacted to a family who's little girl was abducted and murdered not sure if the pervert raped her or not the news didn't mention it at all. The local church was almost across the street from where the crime took place. You'd think if it happened that close to this church they'd take up a collection for the family. They were poor and could have used help  right now, they are faced with burying their little girl and expenses of that. The church didn't even offer up a prayer for the family, nope all heads in the sand. No not a dime for the poor family who lost their child. We need to raise money for the pastors newest venture he needs a new jet so he can spread the gospel around the world!! I guess I shouldn't be surprised abuse don't get mentioned in church. They don't offer counseling, prayer or even sanctuary for the victim. No the abuser is probably a prominent member of the church we can't offend his wallet... oh I mean we can't offend him. This is so disgusting and repulsive I can only imagine how our Heavenly Father or Jesus feels about this. Well here's what Jesus said about it. 

Matthew 25:34-40

34Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: 35For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: 36Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. 37Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? 38When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee39Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? 40And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

Now the church so pious at heart but too good to help a soul in need. 

Matthew 25:41-46
41Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels: 42For I was an hungred, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink: 43I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not. 44Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee? 45Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. 46And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

It's funny the church avoids this chapter in the Bible. It's seldom preached from the pulpit. No pastors want to tickle the ears if their congregation, feed them cotton candy glittery fairy tales about how to get rich if you support the pastor. 

Sunday, January 22, 2017

God is abused too

Churches are a mess today. They have become social clubs of status and a den for the thieves.  The problem is churches kicked God and Jesus out to the curb. Money is king to them but they abuse the name of Jesus and God.  Church had become a social club pastors don't teach about right and wrong they pressure everyone to be NICE and FORGIVING basically making us doormats for all to walk on and wipe their dirty muddy shoes on.  If a wounded person goes to church for healing they will encounter the opposite and find themselves abused again by being told to work things out forgive your oppressor and submitting yourself to further abuse. Then your abuser appeals to the congregation of your lack of forgiveness because you are not submitting to their abuse just abusing you more. Don't look toward the church for comfort from abuse or healing they just want you to shut up and get in line with all the other sheeple.  They don't have time to deal with your issues. Yes and that's how they look at it as "your issues". They don't really care and compassion don't really exist in church. Reality issues are inconveniences, unpleasantness to the members and especially the pastor. That's why you get a flippant answer you just need to forgive them that oppress and abuse you. You are the one with the problem not your abuser. How do you think God feels he too has been discarded by the church. The same with Jesus they throw their names around so it sounds religious. 
Pastors are not warning people of the end times preparing them spiritually for the hell that is to come. All sermons circle around to tithing they manage to turn nearly every message to tithing and lining their pockets. I've seen tv pastors turn absolutely every message about money in the end. But they treat God like a slot machine keep filling the machine and you will eventually cash in. God has been so abused by the church he's like us. Think about it so many claim they love him and shit all over his name. He's been slandered by the one behind the scenes, Satan. The greatest thing Satan did to fool the church into believing that he (Satan) don't exist he's just a myth. Therefore making them also think God may not be real either. There's no fire and brimstone in the pulpit. It should be hell is real, Satan is real and most certainly God is real. The Catholic Church keeps Jesus a baby and worships his earthly mother. The womb that brought him here. That's wrong on so many levels.  Think about that one it's kinda like worshiping a tour bus that brought your favorite rockstar. I'm not saying Jesus is a rock star but I think you get the comparison. Jesus had to be birthed into this realm to interact with us. Just like I believe the antichrist will also have to be birthed into this realm to interact with us. Back to the abusing God; when the pastors choose to get their tax exempt status 501(c)(3) they basically made a pact with the devil. They agreed to not teach on certain topics and agreed to not interfere with politics.  God is non compromising God is truth and all that is good and just. God does not want fake lip service from the charlatans who call themselves Christians. They might as well worship the devil. If you want to know God you will earnestly have to seek him out he knows our hearts minds and intentions. He knows who's really for him and who is only providing lip service. Don't judge God on these fake people seek out the real God. Screw people and what they say talk is cheap look for actions and red flags. There's one thing I've learned  recently is there are fewer TRUE believers than I had thought. I won't say Christians because that word has been misused and abused. 

You think I'm picking on pastors? Think about this a moment. Unless you are living in a cave somewhere or never watch a video on YouTube, everyone is talking and investigating pizzagate and rings of pedophilia child trafficking brought to us by Wikileaks. Information gleaned from the  Podesta brothers and Clinton emails. There's nothing that makes my blood boil than to see abuses of animals, humans but especially little children. Jesus warned woe to you that harms the little ones you'd be better off thrown into the sea with a millstone around your neck.  You've heard the expression cement shoes and swimming with the fishes. That's pretty much the same thing.  Well We know how Jesus feels about the subject what about the church? Where's the outrage?? What about pastors??? All I hear is crickets! Why? Could it be they're so wrapped up in their own lives they lack the empathy to care? You know what you hear from the pulpit? Don't judge!  Why? Could it be they are involved in it too? They're definitely a part of the cover up. You may say just because they aren't talking about it don't mean they're covering it up. Well in my book child abuse of any kind is pretty black and white. There's no room for gray. There's no excuse to abuse a child and especially sexually.  Theres absolutely no reason for an adult to use a child as their sex toy or punching bag.  I guarantee that if all these mega church pastors with their millions, mansions and horsie ranches would just put 10% into putting a stop to this or even just using their influence to expose this evil it wouldn't exist. 

Thursday, May 5, 2016


I just had this thought roll into my head just a few moments ago thought I would share.  Hopefully it blesses you and lifts you up or in the least gives you hope for happiness and peace in the future.

We are like a kitten or puppy abandoned by their mother.  Unwanted automatically labeled as damaged or defective. 

I, like I'm sure a lot of you out there am an animal lover.  We put cat food out for the Ferrel cats that roam the woods behind our home.  We feed the ferrel cats almost as often as our own cats that live in our home with us.  The mother cat had her kittens on our deck but later moved them to another location.  If we could catch her we would have her fixed but these are very wild cats that I believe have always lived on their own in the wild.  When the kittens were big enough for solid food the mother cat brought her whole litter to our deck to share the food we put out for them.  I noticed one of the kittens had a cold and drainage in her eyes which sealed both eyes shut.  Animals in the wild, I'm sure you know this, that if one is defective they will abandon it and let "nature take its course" so to speak.  She will not try and help the one baby she is more concerned over the safety of the other babies.  It's a cold hard thing to watch.  Well I can't watch without getting involved.  Last year this same thing happened one of this cat's kittens seemed to be missing for a couple of days.  I finally saw the kitten it was smaller than the other two kittens.  I was so glad to see it and was going to try and catch it to feed it.  It was no use he was way too fast, but the next day he came back I won't go into all the details of his condition but we was in really bad shape.  I was able to catch him because he was too weak to get away.  The mother cat was there just watching and did absolutely nothing to help.  I was a bit upset with her for just basically abandoning her baby.  It just broke my heart to see how heartless this mother cat was.  I understand but it don't make it easier to take it's just cold and heartless.  I named him BO, because "Bo knows" how cold nature is.  He was near death when I carried him in but I kept him alive for 5 days feeding him with an eyedropper.  At least he didn't get devoured by some predator or something and died knowing at least someone cared.  I did make a HUGE mistake, when I thought Bo was doing a little better I allowed him to see his mother through the patio glass doors.  Thinking she would be glad to see he was doing ok and getting help, I also figured Bo would be glad to see his mommy.  The mother cat looked at him and sniffed the window walked away, Bo saw her and then seemed to give up after that.  His heart was broken he gave up after that.   I was sad for days about him, so was my husband .  I kept thinking what I could have done different to change the outcome.  So with Bo in the back of my mind I was watching the mother cat very close with her new litter to see if she was even going to clean this kitten's eyes or show one ounce of compassion on her.  This kitten would be alright if she could see where she's going and eventually get over the cold.  That wasn't too life threatening; but not being able to see she would be prey to anything that came along and was hungry.  The mother cat done nothing, as I suspected.  .  This one kitten was sitting in the sun on our deck but unable to see her mother started to cry for her.  She left the deck but left all her kittens there for a little while.  I had all that I could take I brought her in.  Cleaned up her eyes and had planned on just putting her back outside with the others; at least that's what I told myself.  When I had finished the mother cat came and left with her kittens.  Well, I guess she decided for me.  After a few weeks, we took her to the vet because the cold was in her sinus and all congested and it didn't seem to be getting any better.  This kitten would have died outside I have no doubt.  The kitten is now 4 months and is doing great, our other two cats love her and she has brought much needed joy to our home.  We named her Sammy.  Although the mother cat was not abusive and in fact she is a good mother and is only doing what is instinctual to them.  I have no contempt for this cat that is just trying to survive.  We still feed her and any cat that comes to our deck. 

The reason I am telling this long story is I see parallels here with our lives. The mother cat didn't physically abuse her kitten but she did abandon it.  Abandonment is just as harmful and in fact is a form of abuse.  As a child we need the love and acceptance of our parents it's part of the nurturing that we are supposed to get.  When we don't it's very damaging it affects the way we look at and feel about ourselves.  In the case of Sammy she basically went no contact with her family and it was the best thing for her.  She is healthy, happy and loved all her needs are taken care of.  She's not out in the heat or the cold, worry about predators or even have to worry where her next meal is coming from.  She knows if she comes over and bites my bare feet she will get fed fresh food.  Yes we spoil our pets, they don't like wet food that has been out for a few hours.  A bowl of dry is always sitting out with water.  I wish I could bring in every one of them... Don't you know God does that for us?  He takes in the abandoned, the abused the unloved and shows us true love.  No he's not the reason you were treated badly.  Everyone has a free will to do right or wrong.  You have the choice to be whoever you are nasty or nice, good or evil.  There are evil people in this world.  Trust me if God took away our free will then we would all be mindless drones just obeying Him like robots.  God wants us to love Him because we want to not because He made us do it.  God didn't make people homeless or babies born into disease or with a disease anymore than he made those born into wealth and health.  God didn't choose your parents or your status.  Like all the ferrel cats I would love to take in every one of them, not comparing myself to God just an illustration.  God would love to help each and every one of us too we just have to show up on his deck so to speak or come to Him and cry out for help.  If you read what churches call the Be Attitudes  or the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5.  This verse is about US!!  We are the poor in spirit.  I always heard this put differently and the pastor always skipped the "in spirit" part.  I always heard it like this from the pulpit, Blessed are the poor, blessed are the sick, blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.  So basically pastors are telling us God is blessing the poor sick and hungry so don't worry about them???  That's not even close to what this verse means.  Here's my breakdown of the verse.  Read it for yourself and you decide what it means to you.  I've pasted the verse below. 
What do you think "poor is spirit is, it's us who are downtrodden, beat up emotionally from those who hurt us the most who should nurture us instead the abuse us.  Look at verse 6 hunger and thirst for righteousness.  The "for righteousness" was always left out when I heard it from the pulpit.  Hunger for righteousness.... you crave or hunger for justice, not revenge;  justice for the injustices of our lives.  There will come a time when God will handle all of the injustices in this world and take judgment upon it.  We may not see the the justice right now but know that God will take care of it in time.  Look at verse 7&8.   Blessed are the merciful,  for they will be shown mercy.  8 Blessed are the pure in heart,  for they will see God.
 This might as well say compassion, those who have compassion on others and listen to their conscience and obey it.  Verse 9 peacemakers is meaning you are not being one of those creating conflict, troublemakers those who stir up or create drama.  It don't mean you put up with abuse just to keep the peace or to appease the abusers.  That's not what it means at all.  Although I'm sure the abusers would like it to say that.  Verse 10 persecuted for righteousness, that's not referring to being churchy or looking all pious.  That means being right by your conscience.  You know the effect your actions on another person would have on another person, good or bad and you choose to do what's good and right.   You don't purposefully hurt another person.  When God comes to judge us all he will judge us on our actions if they were just or not and how we have treated others and not how holy we look to others or project to others.  God sees through all the bullshit.  Sorry but it's true he knows your actions and your intentions during the actions and judges that way, not what we say are our intentions.  To summarize this blog entry, we are better off going no contact with those who abuse us and will eventually find peace and happiness.  I won't lie and tell you there won't still be moments or thoughts of sadness thinking what could've been if only they would've changed their ways...  My advise to you is turn your head back around and look forward, turn away from the past we can't change it we can't change others you are only responsible for you and your actions.  Make sure you can live with your actions and not regret from this day forward.  Unfortunately evil will still cross your path just be wiser and don't get caught up or taken in by them.  Listen to your conscience, and that inner voice God gave it to you to protect you. Learn from your pain but don't stay in it work towards getting better.  Everyone heals at a different pace and have different hurdles to get over.  Remove yourself from anyone who tells you to"just get over it".  That's not helpful and may be harmful to your healing.  It may be an exhibit of lack of conscience too.  Anyway God Bless you all and I hope this is uplifting.

Matthew 5:1-11
Now when Jesus saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, and he began to teach them.

The Beatitudes

He said:
“Blessed are the poor in spirit,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
    for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
    for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
    for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
    for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart,
    for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
    for they will be called children of God.
10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
11 “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

Saturday, February 20, 2016

Commercials Exploitation of the Sick and Unfortunate

This may seem at first like it's off the subject of narcissistic abuse but stay with me and see if you agree. 

Have you noticed lately all of the, in your face graphic and morbid commercials?
For example ASPCA and the humane society. Now I love animals I wish I could rescue every single one from domestic pets to the endangered ones.  Anyone who could harm an animal is a very sick perverted person. They could easily do the same to a human.   Can anyone with empathy watch these commercial in its entirety?  Do they really think by showing us horrific images makes us want to donate to the cause?  Frankly, I'm motivated to change the channel.  Displaying wounded, malnourished and dying animals it's more than I can take. 
What about the St. Jude or the MDA commercials they are literally exploiting these children, it's disgusting. What about wounded veterans showing a man and sometimes women who have amputated body parts or showing them with PTSD.  Only a shell of what they used to be.  Some CEO may be filling his pockets but how much actually goes to the cause, it's hard to tell no one checks them out. Airtime is expensive and those type of commercials last twice and even three times as long just to pull on your heart strings. Heart strings sounds a bit like manipulation to me. Corporate narcissist seeking those with empathy for their donations.  How typical corporate sharks feeding on the little fish. I would be more inclined to donate to their cause if they left out the graphic content. Honestly what an interesting concept.  If you've fallen for these ads don't feel bad they were designed to guilt you into giving just like televangelist do.  Basically conveying that God isn't pleased with you unless you give your hard earned money to their cause and don't forget to give generously.  These commercials have left me with a nagging sense that something's not right.  They make me sick inside. 


Shaming by Comparison

Growing up in a home with parents that are covert narcissist the abuse takes many forms.  Shaming is a common form of narcissistic abuse whether the narcissist is overt or covert.  Shaming by comparison is just as cruel. 
Here's a couple of examples of what I'm talking about. 
Your mother uses an aunt let's call her "Mary" she used her to shame you by comparing you to her. Mary is a messy housekeeper your mother uses her constantly as an example to you. She constantly threatened you to drop you off at her home to live. She would also constantly say I'd hate to visit your house it would be like Mary's. Always comparing you to Mary. Now that you're an adult you still hear her voice in your head. When you have plans to have company come over you immediately go into panic mode and clean like a mad woman trying to make everything look spotless so that they won't think you are like Mary.  Your mother dies and you still hear those words subconsciously.  You get triggered by visitors to the point you don't want to invite anyone to your home. 
Your father has two sisters who he likes comparing you the scapegoat the golden child daughter to.  He had a bad sister who was the scapegoat which he said she lies constantly and a good sister who was the golden child. The golden child sister happened to die young in a tragic auto accident  so now she's memorialized.  You have an argument with your golden child sister while doing dishes. She picks up a knife holding it firmly and pointing it at you saying "I'll cut you!"  This isn't the first time she did this but since mom did nothing about it and brags on what a spitfire she is you don't bother telling on her. You're both still kids but you turn to her saying something you've heard on tv I'm sure. I'll forgive you but never forget. In walks your dad he over hears at least your end of the conversation. He asks what's going on you tell him. Of course he does nothing to the golden child sister and sees nothing wrong. He begins nearly an hour long lecture to you while the golden child watches. He tells how his bad sister was always jealous of the good sister more pretty nicer outgoing  etc.  He then says his bad sister has to live with the guilt of never being able to say she's sorry to the good sister for being jealous.  He then turns it in you and says you'd feel real bad if something happened to your GC sister and you weren't able to apologize. 

This is shaming 

I found this article on Toxic Shame from Darlene Lancer JD,MFT 

Last paragraph sums it all up:
"If not healed, toxic shame can lead to aggression, depression, eating disorders, PTSD, and addiction. It generates low self-esteem, anxiety, irrational guilt, perfectionism, and codependency, and it limits our ability to enjoy satisfying relationships and professional success."

Sunday, February 14, 2016

The Birthright

I love the story of Jacob and Esau if you listen to most pastors they get it wrong. I recommend everyone go back and re read it for themselves.  Genesis 25. Most pastors will make it sound like Jacob was devious, dishonest a thief. The two brothers were twins.  The tradition was the older brother would receive the birthright. The birthright consisted of a blessing a type of anointing of a leadership role in the family along with possibly double the inheritance at least that's what I got.  Esau willfully sold his title to this birthright.  
If you back up to where Rachel, their mother asked God why her baby seemed to be wrestling within her.  God told her why, he told her they were twins.  God knew the nature of Jacob and Esau while in the womb.  This one is a bit perplexing if you think about it. Yes I know he's God he knows everything but remember he also gave us a free will to make choices he didn't decide that one boy would be good and the other would be bad.  He didn't create a yin and yang within Rachel. And no I don't believe that philosophy that good needs bad as bad needs good to exist. If that were true that's saying and I've heard others say God needs satan they need each other they work together.  That is so warped.  Remember it's written in Revelations that God will punish satan later.  That's the only reason satan is allowed to remain in existence  He is  all that is good so he cannot break his word and say ok that's the last straw you've gone too far this time. He will wait and take care of it later. 
God knew the nature of Esau he knew he "Esau despised his birthright."  Held it in low regard, it didn't matter too much to him.  How could anyone despise a blessing from God and look at it as if it were nothing??  God was merely giving the blessing to the son who appreciated it one who would consider it an honor. No matter how little Jacob paid for it he still had Esau's promise to give it to him for soup. If you sell someone a car for $1 and sign over the title it's still a binding contract or sale. Why is this any different?  Since when is it ok to Welch on an agreement?  Why do pastors accuse Jacob of being dishonest. I didn't read that in Genesis that's their own opinion. Was Isaac aware of the sale of the birthright?  Rachel knew... 
Well we all know the rest of the story Jacob did have to trick Isaac into giving the blessing to him. Then when Esau found out and was furious wanted to kill Jacob.  Jacob fled and went no contact he walked away from the inheritance. All he left with was the clothes on his back and the blessing he just got. He stayed away even after both parents had passed.  God blessed Jacob even though he didn't get a dime of his inheritance.  I think one reason greedy pastors (pro$perity doctrine) don't get this story right is because; they're all about money.  They think Jacob's motive was the inheritance when actually it was the BLESSING!!    Esau didn't think too much of the blessing he despised it. He got what he wanted was the money. Years later when Jacob went to see Esau he was for happy he got what he wanted and the reason he was going to kill Jacob was the money not the blessing. Today's prosperity pastors aren't looking for God's blessings they are after the inheritance or money.  To them it's who has the bigger mansions who has the bigger jet.  They have little regard for the blessing like Esau.