Never Underestimate the Craftiness of a Narc

The Narc has many tools in the can use to confuse and manipulate the target victim. They will even fein weakness and helplessness. The will bombard you with constant phone calls about every little thing, even how to address an envelope. They will call you early they will call you late they don't care YOU are to be at their disposal at all times. They will keep you on the phone for hours talking about nothing, leaving you emotionally and physically drained and you don't know why. A lot of the calls consists of common sense questions that are obvious, like "I forgot to use the hamburger that has been in my refrigerator all week do you think it's still good?" She also called crying screaming and hyperventilating "My insurance canceled m what do I do?"  Everything's a catastrophe. You finally have enough and kindly ask them to limit their calls to once a day. They pretend to be sensitive and hurt by this., and even shed a tear or two. You end up feeling like a monster. Yes narcs will use tears and feined helplessness to manipulate you. You still can't put your finger on it but something is unsettling about this person's behavior. You continue to be bombarded with phone calls as if they previous conversation to limit the call never took place. They will invade your personal space hug bomb you knowing you hate hugs. This person had no boundaries. Coming from a Narc family all members except my brother are huggers. You know the type they greet you with a hug say goodbye with a hug they will hug bomb you for no reason at all, because they know you hate fake hugs. I'm not cold like my family portrayed me to be I just hate artificial expressions of affection. If someone close to me is hurt and crying I will hug that person to console them. I do not randomly hug people for no apparent reason, I'm not a hugger!  This narc especially knew that she was my daughter. I started ignoring some of the calls I felt like she was a jealous girlfriend it was getting real creepy. Then she would call the home phone, then cell phone and back and fourth until I answered one of them. You would think there was an emergency as to how hard she tried to contact me all to be chided "you didn't answer my call!" Then after my lame excuse I was busy doing something, then she was satisfied and asked so "whatcha doin'..." There was no emergency she just wanted to talk. From the second she clocked out at work to the time I went to bed I could be on the phone with her. She literally wanted to know what I was doing every second of my day.  She also started dropping by unannounced.  If I did not answer her calls. Her behavior got worse whe we came back into contact with her malignant narc grandmother. This is when I started to see the fangs come out. I was so annoyed with her phone harassment that I started ignoring more and more of her calls. She started leaving me ugly voicemails make up some drama, blown clear out of proportion as to why she needed to talk. She also started borrowing money a lot I would give it to her she guilted me into it. Twenty dollars at a time she was always out of money for gas or she spent too much shopping and rent is due. More drama she created.  After four years of helping her with rent gas her car I finally had enough! We were being nickel and dimed and couldn't seem to get ahead actually my husband put his foot down. Im glad he did because she made me feel so bad. I had to tell her I just didn't have it. Then the anger she had towards me turned to rage. I got nasty voicemail and text messages that if it was from anyone else I would have filed harassment charges or something to put a stop to it. She would say "you hate me!! You never believe in me!!"  The  more she was around her malignant narc grandmother seemed to just add fuel to the fire, rage turned to hatred. 

Let this be a lesson to all who hav children and parents that are narcs. Keep your children away or the narc will infect your children.