The Holidays-Family Guilt Days

The holidays are ready made guilt days for Narcissist.  They just LOVE the holidays because they can obligate YOU the scapegoat or blacksheep into gathering with them and other family members. The Narcissist will extend an extra special invitation to make sure their favorite plaything makes it to the family gathering.  To the Narcissist this is like the most delectable feast they almost salivate with anticipation.  Exuberance is an understatement when the Narcissist thinks about the family gathering.  They will wear their best outfit maybe even go out and buy a new outfit for the occasion.  They will put on their brightest red lipstick spend half of the day getting ready, planning the how they will humiliate, embarrass or abuse you this time. Once you show up to the gathering at first everyone is so superficially nice and seem overjoyed to see you.  They don't want to scare you off too soon, so they wait to show their fangs.  It's like a pack of wolves inviting an unsuspecting sheep to the feast, unbeknownst to him he will be the dinner.  You may leave the gathering thinking you've survived the feast unscathed; but driving home you have this sick feeling in the pit of your stomach.  You may not know immediately what was done or said that makes you feel uneasy but the sense keeps nagging at you until the realization hits you.  For your own sanity and emotional well being the ONLY way to go is no contact.