Abandonment

I just had this thought roll into my head just a few moments ago thought I would share.  Hopefully it blesses you and lifts you up or in the least gives you hope for happiness and peace in the future.

We are like a kitten or puppy abandoned by their mother.  Unwanted automatically labeled as damaged or defective. 

I, like I'm sure a lot of you out there am an animal lover.  We put cat food out for the Ferrel cats that roam the woods behind our home.  We feed the ferrel cats almost as often as our own cats that live in our home with us.  The mother cat had her kittens on our deck but later moved them to another location.  If we could catch her we would have her fixed but these are very wild cats that I believe have always lived on their own in the wild.  When the kittens were big enough for solid food the mother cat brought her whole litter to our deck to share the food we put out for them.  I noticed one of the kittens had a cold and drainage in her eyes which sealed both eyes shut.  Animals in the wild, I'm sure you know this, that if one is defective they will abandon it and let "nature take its course" so to speak.  She will not try and help the one baby she is more concerned over the safety of the other babies.  It's a cold hard thing to watch.  Well I can't watch without getting involved.  Last year this same thing happened one of this cat's kittens seemed to be missing for a couple of days.  I finally saw the kitten it was smaller than the other two kittens.  I was so glad to see it and was going to try and catch it to feed it.  It was no use he was way too fast, but the next day he came back I won't go into all the details of his condition but we was in really bad shape.  I was able to catch him because he was too weak to get away.  The mother cat was there just watching and did absolutely nothing to help.  I was a bit upset with her for just basically abandoning her baby.  It just broke my heart to see how heartless this mother cat was.  I understand but it don't make it easier to take it's just cold and heartless.  I named him BO, because "Bo knows" how cold nature is.  He was near death when I carried him in but I kept him alive for 5 days feeding him with an eyedropper.  At least he didn't get devoured by some predator or something and died knowing at least someone cared.  I did make a HUGE mistake, when I thought Bo was doing a little better I allowed him to see his mother through the patio glass doors.  Thinking she would be glad to see he was doing ok and getting help, I also figured Bo would be glad to see his mommy.  The mother cat looked at him and sniffed the window walked away, Bo saw her and then seemed to give up after that.  His heart was broken he gave up after that.   I was sad for days about him, so was my husband .  I kept thinking what I could have done different to change the outcome.  So with Bo in the back of my mind I was watching the mother cat very close with her new litter to see if she was even going to clean this kitten's eyes or show one ounce of compassion on her.  This kitten would be alright if she could see where she's going and eventually get over the cold.  That wasn't too life threatening; but not being able to see she would be prey to anything that came along and was hungry.  The mother cat done nothing, as I suspected.  .  This one kitten was sitting in the sun on our deck but unable to see her mother started to cry for her.  She left the deck but left all her kittens there for a little while.  I had all that I could take I brought her in.  Cleaned up her eyes and had planned on just putting her back outside with the others; at least that's what I told myself.  When I had finished the mother cat came and left with her kittens.  Well, I guess she decided for me.  After a few weeks, we took her to the vet because the cold was in her sinus and all congested and it didn't seem to be getting any better.  This kitten would have died outside I have no doubt.  The kitten is now 4 months and is doing great, our other two cats love her and she has brought much needed joy to our home.  We named her Sammy.  Although the mother cat was not abusive and in fact she is a good mother and is only doing what is instinctual to them.  I have no contempt for this cat that is just trying to survive.  We still feed her and any cat that comes to our deck. 

The reason I am telling this long story is I see parallels here with our lives. The mother cat didn't physically abuse her kitten but she did abandon it.  Abandonment is just as harmful and in fact is a form of abuse.  As a child we need the love and acceptance of our parents it's part of the nurturing that we are supposed to get.  When we don't it's very damaging it affects the way we look at and feel about ourselves.  In the case of Sammy she basically went no contact with her family and it was the best thing for her.  She is healthy, happy and loved all her needs are taken care of.  She's not out in the heat or the cold, worry about predators or even have to worry where her next meal is coming from.  She knows if she comes over and bites my bare feet she will get fed fresh food.  Yes we spoil our pets, they don't like wet food that has been out for a few hours.  A bowl of dry is always sitting out with water.  I wish I could bring in every one of them... Don't you know God does that for us?  He takes in the abandoned, the abused the unloved and shows us true love.  No he's not the reason you were treated badly.  Everyone has a free will to do right or wrong.  You have the choice to be whoever you are nasty or nice, good or evil.  There are evil people in this world.  Trust me if God took away our free will then we would all be mindless drones just obeying Him like robots.  God wants us to love Him because we want to not because He made us do it.  God didn't make people homeless or babies born into disease or with a disease anymore than he made those born into wealth and health.  God didn't choose your parents or your status.  Like all the ferrel cats I would love to take in every one of them, not comparing myself to God just an illustration.  God would love to help each and every one of us too we just have to show up on his deck so to speak or come to Him and cry out for help.  If you read what churches call the Be Attitudes  or the Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5.  This verse is about US!!  We are the poor in spirit.  I always heard this put differently and the pastor always skipped the "in spirit" part.  I always heard it like this from the pulpit, Blessed are the poor, blessed are the sick, blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth.  So basically pastors are telling us God is blessing the poor sick and hungry so don't worry about them???  That's not even close to what this verse means.  Here's my breakdown of the verse.  Read it for yourself and you decide what it means to you.  I've pasted the verse below. 
What do you think "poor is spirit is, it's us who are downtrodden, beat up emotionally from those who hurt us the most who should nurture us instead the abuse us.  Look at verse 6 hunger and thirst for righteousness.  The "for righteousness" was always left out when I heard it from the pulpit.  Hunger for righteousness.... you crave or hunger for justice, not revenge;  justice for the injustices of our lives.  There will come a time when God will handle all of the injustices in this world and take judgment upon it.  We may not see the the justice right now but know that God will take care of it in time.  Look at verse 7&8.   ⁷ Blessed are the merciful,  for they will be shown mercy.  ⁸ Blessed are the pure in heart,  for they will see God.

 This might as well say compassion, those who have compassion on others and listen to their conscience and obey it.  Verse 9 peacemakers is meaning you are not being one of those creating conflict, troublemakers those who stir up or create drama.  It don't mean you put up with abuse just to keep the peace or to appease the abusers.  That's not what it means at all.  Although I'm sure the abusers would like it to say that.  Verse 10 persecuted for righteousness, that's not referring to being churchy or looking all pious.  That means being right by your conscience.  You know the effect your actions on another person would have on another person, good or bad and you choose to do what's good and right.   You don't purposefully hurt another person.  When God comes to judge us all he will judge us on our actions if they were just or not and how we have treated others and not how holy we look to others or project to others.  God sees through all the bullshit.  Sorry but it's true he knows your actions and your intentions during the actions and judges that way, not what we say are our intentions.  To summarize this blog entry, we are better off going no contact with those who abuse us and will eventually find peace and happiness.  I won't lie and tell you there won't still be moments or thoughts of sadness thinking what could've been if only they would've changed their ways...  My advise to you is turn your head back around and look forward, turn away from the past we can't change it we can't change others you are only responsible for you and your actions.  Make sure you can live with your actions and not regret from this day forward.  Unfortunately evil will still cross your path just be wiser and don't get caught up or taken in by them.  Listen to your conscience, and that inner voice God gave it to you to protect you. Learn from your pain but don't stay in it work towards getting better.  Everyone heals at a different pace and have different hurdles to get over.  Remove yourself from anyone who tells you to"just get over it".  That's not helpful and may be harmful to your healing.  It may be an exhibit of lack of conscience too.  Anyway God Bless you all and I hope this is uplifting.

Matthew 5:1-11

5 Now when Jesus saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, ² and he began to teach them.

The Beatitudes

He said:

³ “Blessed are the poor in spirit,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
⁴ Blessed are those who mourn,
    for they will be comforted.
⁵ Blessed are the meek,
    for they will inherit the earth.
⁶ Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
    for they will be filled.
⁷ Blessed are the merciful,
    for they will be shown mercy.
⁸ Blessed are the pure in heart,
    for they will see God.
⁹ Blessed are the peacemakers,
    for they will be called children of God.
¹⁰ Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

¹¹ “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. ¹² Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.